When the Smoke Clears and the Dust Settles.

Most people feel sympathy for people who have low self esteem. We feel this sympathy for many reasons. People with low self esteem don’t treat themselves well. They don’t have the drive or will to make their lives better because deep down they don’t feel like they deserve better. If you were to compliment an attractive girl with low self esteem, she wouldn’t believe you or would think you were joking because she doesn’t believe it about herself. In addition to all this people who don’t think highly of themselves are more likely to get into unhealthy or abusive relationships. And while these relationships are horrible for the person with low self esteem and their significant others usually feed these thoughts of self worthlessness and the best advice you can give to these people with low self esteem is to get out of their bad relationship and to start taking steps to turn their lives around, there is one up side to their relationship. These people with low self esteem actually feel like they are totally undeserving of the person they are with. They are completely grateful to have that person in their lives and maybe in a sick, pitiful and depressing sense of the word the person with low self esteem is really in love with their abusive counterpart.

Now, people with high self esteem don’t want to be with someone who feels like they are completely undeserving of their affection, adoration and love. This type of relationship wouldn’t appeal to someone with high self esteem at all because people who think highly of themselves have high standards. These standards not only apply to them but also for with whomever they choose to spend their time. People with high standards refuse to settle for less, especially when it comes to something as long term as a committed relationship. People with high self esteem want someone who is great enough to be with someone as great as themselves.

As odd as it sounds, the people with high self esteem are the ones who deserve your sympathy.

Just think about it. This planet of ours is invested with the low and averaged self esteemed, the modest and quick to settle, the complacent and easily satisfied with life. And yes, there are a few of us with high self esteem sprinkled here and there but it’s not like we’re wearing neon signs. As we walk through life all HSE-ish we finally come across someone we feel is great enough to be with someone as great as we. Some of us are lucky and the person we come across has just as much self esteem as we do (shout out to the lovely GF of mine), but others aren’t as lucky. Just imagine having this “never settle for less” attitude, coming across someone you can finally share the limelight with, experience all the fire and passion that come at the start of any great romance and when smoke clears and the dust settles, finding out that they just “settled” for you. You weren’t all they dreamed of and they really wished for someone greater but they saw the positives you had and decided that was enough for them.

OUCH!

This reality hitting the person with high self esteem is far worse than the cob of spit flying from the lips of an abusive spouse colliding with the already bruised cheek of its low self esteemed target because at least in that case the person feels they deserve it. It’s really painful to imagine just how often this situation happens. To reduce this tragedy my advice to everybody would be to never settle but I know that advice would fall of the deaf ears of the low to slightly above average self esteemed so I’ll just say this. If you are going to settle, never let on how much your significant other doesn’t match up with your ideal mate. I’m not saying you can’t have complaints about them at all but don’t make it seem that it was just one or two of their qualities that made being with them worth it.

Because those with high self esteem really don’t deserve to walk in the shoes of the low self esteemed and even though it’s truly heartbreaking to see someone with low self esteem in a bad relationship the next time you do you can honestly think to yourself “it could be worse…”

The Market

In this time of economic crisis I have realized something. I realize the instant I started to have more success with women. It wasn’t right after I finally got the courage to go up to a random woman that I found attractive and have a conversation with her. It wasn’t right after pulling a hot chick from the club after a night of drinking and dancing. It wasn’t after my first threesome with two top models at the W in a hot tub full of champagne (probably because that one didn’t happen yet). Although all those moments helped solidify in my mind that more success was on the way, the moment I started having more success with woman was the day the pussy stock market crashed in my mind. The day I witnessed the clitoral collapse and I looked out into a room full of gorgeous women and saw the price of pussy plummet.

Surprisingly, there wasn’t wide spread panic. No bailout plans put into place. No scramble by their advertising committee to come out with a new look or differently fragranced pussy. Even though I understand that this isn’t a product that you can easily improve upon I was still a little amazed how pussy stared back at me and almost seemed to laugh with its unresponsiveness. Little did pussy know, I would be getting the exact response I wanted from it in the near future because as I surveyed the unchanged crowd of women, something had changed in me. I wasn’t… well, I wasn’t scared anymore.

Although this was by no means an overnight success story that was the day that pussy lost most of its power over me. Women were no longer able to dangle the promise of pussy to manipulate me. I was free! It was a liberating and very empowering moment. What was to follow was a sex life full of passion, excitement and mutual respect because with each encounter both parties knew they were there because they wanted to be there. Neither was doing the other a favor or paying something that was owed. The crash turned out to be a great thing not only for me but for all the women who a chance to experience this new and improved uninhibited version of me.

And then there was commitment…

The funny thing about being in a relationship is the price of pussy once again sky rockets! Don’t get me wrong it’s not like you’re literally paying for it or anything but if you’re going to do the whole “monogamous relationship” thing right you won’t have access to the flooded market (and in my case I do mean “flooded” ;) ). With this dramatic decrease in supply the value of what is available goes up, up, up. And I would never reduce the wonderfully sweet, sexy, smart, caring and thoughtful being known as my girlfriend down to just mere pussy. I’m just saying it’s an adjustment getting used to an increase in market value on something that was once so (for lack of a better word) cheap.

So ladies if you are ever as lucky to get a greatly desired man to choose you and want to settle down in a relationship. If you worked so hard to lock down a ladies’ man and now that you’ve succeeded you’re worried about being able to keep him committed. All you need to do is be very aware of the change he is about to experience and understanding of what he is getting used to. Do your best to keep him feeling as desired as he was in his single days and do whatever to feed his ego because trust me in the face of an economic crisis the first instinct of the greatest men is to… bail out.

The Introduction

Are you tired of reading your friend's blogs only to leave disappointed? You turn to them for entertainment, excitement, or just something interesting to read but what do they deliver? A daily record of went on that day consisting of vague statements of how much they hate studying, how they are pissed off at their boss, parents or coworkers, or what they ate and when they took a shit. Are you ready for something different? Do you want to stop leaving blogs thinking to yourself "I wish they'd stop talking and post more pictures..." Well, this is your chance.

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26 year old, black male. Engineer. Boyfriend. Quickwitted, swifted tongued, well dressed being that brings new meaning to the word "individual" (and he's hot). A man who will soon say goodbye to the shots of everclear and whiskey to step into world made foggy by cigar smoke. His extended pause between these two eras in his life will form outlooks on relationships that will leave you disoriented, will create thoughts on everyday life that will shake your existence, and will cause moments of motivation that will have you feeling like someone pulled the ground out from underneath you. Yes... It's that serious.

For you are reading the blog of a man so great that he has spent this whole post referring to himself in third person! Prepare yourself for his creative ways of complaining, for his futile attempts to hide how highly the thinks of himself, and his tales of triumph over the challenges life throws at him that you will make you feel as if fate is pitching at him underhanded.

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